Double Whammy / TTC Story (this far)

Ashley

So, I'm 30 y.o. and TTC. Married for 5 years, and "actively" trying for over a year now. My OB ran the gamut of blood tests for me and found that my progesterone levels were suuuuper low (I was told 4 after the first test). I had a momentary trip to crazy-town, bawling about how my eggs are rotten and I'll never have a baby. She also gave the order that my husband should provide a sample to see how his sperm count was. Well, I began taking Clomid: 50 mg dose bumped me up to 8, 100 mg (for some reason) resulted in a drop to 6, and my blood draw for progesterone for the 150 mg dose is Nov. 1. I have never officially been diagnosed with PCOS or other fertility issues, but when I was 3 months old I had surgery for a ruptured ovary (not sure if that's pertinent, but I'm putting it out there).****here is where I wish I could start a new paragraph**** My OB gave a doctor's order when she prescribed the Clomid to "have sex every other day AND HAVE FUN!" Well, despite trying to have fun, the pressure was on the hubs to perform and, although it would go up, he had difficulty "finishing" as he had baby on the brain. This has been causing tension between us. That previous request for him to provide a sample...yeah, never happened. So I got on his case - does he even want a child? Won't provide a specimen, won't ejaculate during intercourse.... sounds like he doesn't want a child. After a big fight, and after me throwing up my arms and saying "I give up!!!" He made his deposit. We got the results fairly quickly - OB called and said absolutely no sperm in his specimen. Zip. Zero. Nada. What does that mean?!?!?!? Doc said it is not due to lifestyle, but rather a chemical or physical issue (blockage or something). We have to get in touch with urology to help figure this out - called yesterday but didn't get anything set up. So here we are, not the right environment in my bod, not the right addition from his. I guess I'm writing this post to share our story, it's a little hard to share this with family and friends. And to ask for anyone with information about zero-sperm count & for prayers. Prayers for intelligent doctors that know what's up, prayers for emotional healing prayers that (maybe) hubs will change his mind about adoption (he said he doesn't want a strangers baby-might not have a choice now). We will keep trying. Truth be told, knowing that I'm not the only one with issues, I feel like the pressure is off of me. I'm sad that we may not have a child, but I'm strangely more accepting of it now.