Schizoaffective disorder, epileptic, single, 40 and TTC

So I have posted on here before how I am single, 40 and TTC.

It’s a little more complicated than that though. I have schizoaffective disorder and am epileptic. None of these really affect my day to day life. I take my meds and I carry on as normal.

I work as an IT manager looking after a team of 80 people, and am incredibly independent. I live in my own house and am fully capable of managing everything in my life.

Yet I go to my doctor and say I want to have a baby on my own. The responsible thing right. You should plan your pregnancy, right? Especially when you have medical conditions, so that’s what I do.

She suggests IUI.

Then I go to the fertility clinic and then they say I need a letter from both the psychiatrist and neurologist to confirm that I am fit and healthy to be a mother. I have not seen either the psychiatrist or neurologist for over four years as I have been stable that they discharged me from their care.

Neither of them will confirm whether I am fit or healthy enough to be a mother. The fertility clinic say that before they can do IUI they must have this information from the doctors as they have to meet the HFEA guidelines for insemination with donor sperm.

So I am in a bit of a stuck situation. I think it’s a bit off that they need this signed confirmation that I am fit and healthy before they proceed with treatment. It sucks.

I’m really finding it difficult to find my way through this. I feel I am being punished just because I have these conditions. ☹️