Im not sure if i should take this concern back to our couples therapist, but my fiance and i agreed we didnt want kids. I was stern on it. There is possibly in the far future we would have one but i am more than happy not to. I just dont like kids. He even said in counseling and i quote “at this point not having kids isnt a deal breaker, im fine without them” so i was like great this will work out i dont have to worry about eventually having a kid to keep him happy or end the relationship. Im 21 and he is 25. We are tight for money, late on rent by 2 days and winter sucks for his business and its only right around the corner. I jokingly suggested we sell some of my eggs for $8k and he pretty adamantly shot that idea down. I was laughing and said well we don’t have to sell them all but that’d be a lot of money, and he’s shaking his head no. Lol so i feel like that confirmed he’s not ready to let go of the idea of having kids. I JUST DONT WANT THEM. Why would he waste my time if he’s still holding onto the idea of having them?! This is so frustrating.

Why not help people that cant have kids? I don’t want them but that doesn’t mean other people cant have them, id be happy to donate. And i could use that money for the wedding and the down payment on the house. 😒

**** also i want to add I’m not “quick to pay for the wedding”, we’ve been engaged over two years. Been together four and a half.

Im taking this to the counselor because i dont want him wasting my time if he still thinks he wants kids. Ill be furious if 4.5 years has been for nothing. I think some of you ladies are right and i need to have a serious discussion with him about this with the counselor, its not fair to assume hes okay with how we are and then later on find he wants kids for sure. And yeah, really it is my body i should be allowed to sell my eggs, i never thought however maybe he doesnt want other people having my kids, thats an interesting point of view. Im going to ask him tonight what his real issue is.