When going through this forum, I read so many stories of how horrible some women's men treat them and I am appalled, but at the same time it reminds me how incredibly lucky I am.

I was always the type of girl to go for "the bad boy". I always picked them wrong... I picked guys who cheated on me, who put me down, who made me feel worthless, ugly and fat. They were always these manly guys who acted like they didn't give a shit. After my last boyfriend, I decided to boycott men for awhile because I was just so broken, insecure, and felt like men just made me miserable.

I remember having this moment where I realized that relationships just broke me. I would put so much into them but always end up hurt or broke somehow. So after leaving a pretty unhealthy relationship I had decided that I wanted to be alone for the rest of my life. I was happy single and learnt how to love myself. I didn't have anyone telling me what I could or could not do, I didn't have anyone putting me Down, or cheating on me, or making me feel insecure. I was content. Maybe not happy, but happy enough. I always wanted children so I even looked into different ways I could have a child alone. I was only 25 but I owned my own house, car and had a good job, so I planned that maybe in a few years I would do something like that.

But then one day, I was at work, and I remember I was talking with some of the older ladies I worked with, and we were playing "Would you rather". The questions varied but I remember a couple I had asked them such as "Would you rather date a really hot guy with a bad personality or a really ugly one who treated you like gold?" They werent like that exactly but it was something along those lines, and the older ladies always chose the nice guy. They had already been through bad relationships and they knew what and who could make them happy.

I'm not a shallow person, but like I said, I had always gone for "manly" guys who usually had barely anything in common with me. After playing that game with those women, I started to reconsider my ultimate plan. I had a friend that I also worked with, and I was always attracted to him but never really considered him because he just wasn't what I thought my type was. He was really Nice, soft spoken, he played lots of video games, liked things like star wars, World of Warcraft, Lord of the Rings, anime.. he didn't party barely at All, and didn't have alot of friends because of how shy and quiet he was...but he was always so nice to me, and I knew he was interested in me because he had say so before but I kind of blew him off saying I wasn't interested in dating.

Well... I decided... Maybe I should try something new. I had never dated a "nerdy" type of guy before... which is weird because I myself am pretty nerdy. I'm a big bookworm, I love star wars/batman/video games/astronomy/science/fantasy things/Harry potter/pokemon. But I was always the only "nerdy" person in my group of friends. I hung out with alot of people who didn't have anything in common with me. Most likely because even though I like nerdy things, I'm also very outgoing and social.

One thing I found really attractive about him was how smart he was! He would always know all these random facts about everything... and I am one of those people who love learning so it was so fascinating to hear all the stuff he knew about.

We ended up hanging out... and it was so much fun. So we kept hanging out and within a month I was already falling so hard for him. By 3 months I had told him more secrets about me and my life than I've ever told anyone. Things I swore I would take to the grave because of how embarrassing they were...i told him. I had never felt so comfortable around anyone. I fell so hard in love with him. Six months later, we are living together and still madly in love... Then after out 1 year anniversary we decide to try for a baby. We honestly had sex one night without protection...just once and I was pregnant.

Fast forward 9 months... I'm now 37 weeks pregnant with the love of my life's baby. We have been together for almost 2 yeara, and we spend basically all our time together and yet I am still so madly in love with him. I just want all you girls to know... there are great men out there. There are guys who are perfect for you.

This man tells me I am beautiful and perfect every single day. Even at 9 months pregnant, looking like a whale, stretch marks scattered across most my body, my legs and feet swollen as hell, and no energy to put makeup on or do my hair, he will walk into the living room and look at me plopped down on the couch like a beached whale and say I'm beautiful. Then come over cuddle and kiss me. I am pregnant as fuck and with that comes alot of pretty gross symtoms... like for instants...my vagina is all swollen and fat, and sweats more than it used to...and yet dispite my farting, burping, hemorrhoids, fat vagina and white crusties on my nipples, he still wants to have sex with me whenever I am up for it. He even helps me shave my vagina and legs! He was patient and calm and caring all throughout my emotional breakdowns from the hormones. He listens to me and shows he cares every day by hurrying to my side when we are about to leave the house just so he can help me put my shoes on. He is always making sure I'm okay going up and down our snowy steps outside and into the car. He tells me he loves me every single day and won't leave the house without kissing me goodbye.

He knew I struggled alot with insecurities from previous relationships so he got rid of all his computer backgrounds of girls, and doesn't even notice other women when he's with me. He makes me feel so special and so incredibly happy. He is very honest. Even if an old female friend messages him to ask him how it's goes, he always tells me "so so messaged me to say hi" and never hides anything from me. And I treat him with that same respect. I never knew how healthy a relationship can be. Even when we have disagreements or get into an argument, it is always so much more civilized than my previous relationships.

The best part is... we have so much in common. We watch the same shows, play the same games, get into the same things...when we go shopping, we want to go to the same stores. We have a couple things that are different but that's even better because then we can do our thing once in a while, but I am never as happy as I am when I am with this man. He is so perfect for me and I am sooo happy that I decided to try something different. Finally give the nice guy a chance. It was the best decision of my life. I found my soulmate and I could not possibly be any happier.