Love my husband, but he can be a jerk sometimes and I just need to vent.

I have a pretty supportive husband, but he is pretty selfish. For example, one week after my c-section 18 months ago, he made me move boxes since we were moving despite it being one week post op and swollen legs. He doesn’t help really take care of our toddler (we both work full time) and his excuse is he didn’t want another child. He loves our daughter, but only sees her maybe 10 hours a week total between work, soccer, and going out with his friends. I just had hernia surgery and of course he leaves it to my mom to care for me and my daughter. Tonight (our 3 days post op) he told me I didn’t need pain meds since he felt fine after his very minor surgery years ago (I had 3 HUGE) hernias and muscle repair. Ugh. Just had to vent. All men can be a-holes sometimes.