This is my 3rd pregnancy. My daughter from my first pregnancy is going to be 7 on Thanksgiving. After trying for 3 years we got pregnant with our son I had a still birth at 20 weeks this past April. we I just found that we are pregnant again I am excited for this pregnancy we are not announcing untill after new year's our immediate families know and thats it. I want to get an elective ultrasound at 17 weeks a few days before Christmas. I just told my mom about it and she was not supportive at all. she was saying "what are you going to do if after you announce and pay all the money for an ultrasound you find out this one's dead" and other hurtful things like that and now she's stuck in my head.