Do married couples go to checkups before getting married and check for virginity? Middle eastern men

So I’m a Virgin, never had sex, and I’m Muslim. I’m middle eastern. I can’t have sex before marriage.. and my culture says middle eastern men only marry virgins. If he marries u and finds out u arnt a virgin, he will leave u. It’s true. And I only want to marry a middle eastern guy. So I’m in highschool and I’ve done dance for 2 years. I only wore a tampon like 2-3 times.. I wear pads. I checked in the mirror and I see a small pink thing around my vagina but I have to spread my legs.. what if I broke my humen?? I’m dead!