Am I wrong?

So my mother in law hates me now from miscommunication of me asking that she’d wear a thick jacket before coming to the hospital when my son is born and taking it off to hold him cause she is a really heavy smoker and she said things about me and my son that were way out of line and I tried to clear up what was said wrong and she doesn’t want to come to the hospital room but she’s expecting to get pictures of him. But when you want to disown my child and say that god gave me him and he can take him away when i’ve done nothing out of term to you then I don’t think she should get pictures of him at all. Not to mention miscarriages and still births run in my family and I explained that also which is why I take extra pro cautions when it comes to his first day in this world. And it boils down to her getting mad and saying all that because she doesn’t like something that someone wants. And just because she’s mad she says whatever. Like no, for one it isn’t your child and you will not disrespect me when i’ve done nothing wrong towards you. So I feel the need to tell my fiancé that he isn’t to send her anything since she wants to talk about him like that. You act immature and come at my unborn child then you shouldn’t get anything of that sort. Even when I’ve tried to clear things up so many times and she still chooses to wanna be a bitch. Am I wrong?