Advice from revert sisters

Asalaamu alaikum

Of course all sisters’ advice or words are welcome but this issue is mainly one for reverts with non-Muslim family.

My Grandma passed away last night after a long illness. Despite the generation she was born into, she was never particularly religious and I don’t know if she believed in any kind of God. Anyway, she certainly wasn’t Muslim.

When the first close relative died after I became Muslim, I found it incredibly hard to cope with the thought of my beloved, kind Aunty going to her grave as a non-believer and suffering the punishment. I spent days and weeks researching death in Islam and trying to find any little piece of information which might give me hope that she was not simply destined for Hell. Of course, I couldn’t find any such information but in my grief I was looking for a comfort which doesn’t exist.

Now I’m facing this for a third time and won’t be looking for anything which doesn’t exist, but I still have the same feelings about someone I love greatly going to a destination we all fear. It’s an additional strain on top of the grief.

I don’t really have a question, I just wanted to know if anyone else has experienced this and how you deal with it.

JazakAllah Khair