Im I doing Bad “After Husband cheating”?

So my back story is I caught my husband coming out the hotel with some girl, turns out she’s pregnant too. “Yes Im pregnant” were only 1 1/2 week difference from our die date I guess. Looks like he won’t let go of that relationship. I thought he will realized his mistake and only step up to the father to that child. I was willing to work things out! But lately he goes see her straight from work, for an hour or so, the most he’s talking is 2 hours. Im 100% they’re still messing around. I don’t know how to feel anymore.

Before I got pregnant I was thinking of leaving him, we went through a super early miscarriage, and that completely torn us down, and it hit him more. We had been through 9 years of infertility, so I talked to him when it happen, he said as longest we we’re together it was more than enough for him, I saw him really hurt, I acted strong around him, and I did extra to pregnant with this baby. But little did I know he had another thing going on. According to him it was a one time thing. But it shows other wise.

So before I got pregnant I’ve always had an ex looking for me. He was always passing by my house. We spoke in early August, and I was a lil harsh on him, he was hanging out with a friend of mine, so thats how he got in contact with me. But that only happen that time, and after that I found out he kept insisting to get in touch. Before I knew all this I asked my friend to get me in touch with him. My relationship with was always more open with him like I could literally tell him everything and be myself. So I needed him so much with this situation, my intentions weren’t to get his hopes up for anything between us. But when I saw him yesterday, that blacked out. I opened up to him with my problems, he knew something was wrong, I tried so hard to play it off, didn’t work. So I told him the story, he didn’t feel sorry for me, he didn’t feel anger towards him, he did say a lot of things that opened my eyes! He says he believes in Destiney, and that he was going to be there for me and my baby. He has changed a lot more since when we we’re going out! He is so mature, and is a hard working guy. I asked him why did you keep insisting to look for me if you already knew I was pregnant, he said he doesn’t know how to explain how he felt that urge to look for me.

I can’t offer him a stable relationship when Im just going through this, I did notice I low key felted the same way but I did not mention it to him. Im I doing wrong to stay reconnected with him? Should I keep trying to work things out with my husband?

Now Im in a triangle! 😭