This might be long so bear with me.

My best friend has been trying to get pregnant for quite some time now, over 2 years maybe close to 3. She had a miscarriage literally weeks before I found out I was pregnant with my first pregnancy. She has had 2 miscarriages and has been on clomid multiple times and this time the highest dose. They just drew her blood to see if she ovulated and her levels were extremely low meaning she did not ovulate even with clomid. She is completely heartbroken, totally shattered and now looking into <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a>.

My question is, I just found out I am pregnant, my boyfriend and I have been planning this pregnancy for a year now, we wanted to have a July/August baby since we have a January baby and only want 2 kids for now. I am so so happy and feel so lucky to have gotten pregnant but I can't help but feel terribly guilty. So much so that I am feeling depressed, I am so scared to tell my sister/best friend who is literally going through the hardest time of her life.

She knows we had been waiting till October for him to cum inside me. I got my IUD out in early summer and she had asked me every month if we were still "trying" and I had mentioned that no, we are waiting till October/November because we want a July/August baby. Well, she hasn't brought it up to me since September and I'm grateful that I don't have to answer the question but also so so so scared to tell her. I don't know what to do at this point? My boyfriend and I are planning to tell parents and family on Christmas but I want to tell her beforehand since I feel like I owe it to her and don't want to blindside her.

Does anyone have advice on what to say to her? Or how to go about it? I'm scared she'll hate me or like avoid me or that it'll send her deeper into sadness/depression/loneliness/etc. I just know she has a lot of animosity towards pregnant people and I know it has nothing to do with them personally, but just that she really wants to be pregnant and have a baby. It's really stressing me out and it's on my mind literally 70% of the time. If you even got this far, wow.. thank you so much. I really appreciate it. I have no one to talk to about this with so I really need some advice or opinion, please 😥💔😰🙁 thank you. 💖