Who Will Baby Identify With?

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Whether or not our baby will identify with me or him is a concern of my SO's.  He is white and I'm black. He worries if the baby is darker, the baby won't identify with him well. This has not been a concern of mine; I mean, we will be this little baby's parents and raising him and that will be enough. But my SO is still worried. Not sure what to say to him? Advice??

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Well here's how mine turned out I have red hair and freckles and very fair skin and my husband is Mexican so he's brown skin black hair my kids ended in the middle.

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My kids are mixed and never really thought anything different I am their mom and their dad is their dad..they are exposed to both sides and feel equally loved

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I am a multiracial child, my father is white and my mother is filipino, Cuban, and black but she is on the more darker side so she associates her self as black.
 But when people ask what am I, I tell them that I'm cuban, filipino, black and german. I don't chose a side (white or black). most people do think I'm Spanish though

my family including my sisters and I boyfriends

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I have a theory that most biracial kids relate more to the minority culture because it's how society tends to classify them. I mean, president Obama seems to refer to himself as a black man much more than a biracial man.

My husband is indian and his culture and religion are steeped in traditions and rituals. I am a Caucasian mix of European countries and feel like we don't have any traditions to latch on to. I hope our kids will embrace both sides equally, but I am sure they will veer towards indian. My husband though is equally worried they will be too white growing up in America and won't care for his traditions. I guess it is just a common fear in an interracial family.

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It's not a huge deal... Most people won't really ask or anything. But I'm biracial and I always politely correct people and say I am mixed (a lot of times people either assume I'm mixed or that I'm fully black). I don't own one race over the other... It's not because I dislike one or anything, I just prefer to embrace all of what I am. 
When I fill out applications I put black, white, and Native American, unless there is only an option to choose one, then I choose "prefer not to specify".

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Kids never really pay attention to those kind of things anyways just tell him everything will be fine. Whether they are darker or the same :)

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Well coming from someone who is black and Asian but looks black...I didn't identify with the Asian side until I was in like...5th grade? In fact, I remember being a kid in Japan and wondering "what would a black Asian kid look like?" And didn't realize until 5th grade that...that's me. I'm a black Asian! And then I became obsessed with my Asian side, straightening my hair and wishing I had those cool smaller eyes. It was a weird phase....
So...not really advice but that's how it was with me 😬

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I don't think about that because puertoricans are every color in the rainbow lol I grew up getting those stares in the states kuz my mom is white and me and my sisters came out black like my father (we're all 100% puertorican) but we just correct them if they ask,I don't think it's that big of deal...I know my kids will most likely come out lighter than me kuz my SO is as white as they come and I'm only 50% black so for the most part the dominant gene wins which is white in our case but who knows we shall see...my first baby already came out white

Who Will Baby Identify With?

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