Is "beauty shaming" real?

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There's a lot about slut shaming, body shaming, etc in the media. Some models and industry professionals have been quick to fire back "skinny shaming is a thing too!"

Can beauty shaming hurt as much as any other kind? I can only speak from my own experience. I've gained 100 lbs (and lost 80 back again) since I modeled. In this new face and body, nobody calls my outfit (when they really mean my figure) "too sexy", people don't sexually assault or attempt to sexually assault me in public or private, nobody drugs or attempts to drug my drinks, tries to force sexual contact on me, speculates on me getting my job by performing sexual favors on the boss, threatens to beat me up if I talk to their boyfriend, stalks me and has to be pulled out of my bushes by police, threatens to kill me if I don't date them, and so on.

Then again, nobody gives me free stuff just for showing up, follows my Social media and watches my videos by the millions no matter how short and poorly made they are, wants to be my friend so they can be seen hanging hanging around with me, or is there to support me "No matter what"...as long as you're beautiful and pretending to care gets me a shot with you, in other words.

Is beauty shaming real? Or is it all just the same problem of women's looks seeming to matter more than our accomplishments?

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I honestly think it’s simply people being assholes to other people. It doesn’t need to be broken down into groups - fat shaming, slut shaming, beauty shaming, etc - it’s just being an asshole.

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Also I’d like to point out. People who don’t fit societies mold get sexually assaulted And harassed as well. You don’t have to be pretty to be a victim. And to b honest if I were a peeve looking to get off on something like that, I’d seek an “ugly girl” because no one is gonna believe her.
The first paragraph of your post is a little disheartening. It implies that only pretty people get sexually assaulted or harassed and I’m sure that’s not what u meant, but is a good example to the way society views sexual abuse victims

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None of what you’re describing is shaming. Not being given free things for example is a loss of privilege, but it’s not shaming a person. 
Shaming would be more like direct insults. Calling someone’s hair basic might qualify, but it’s pretty low on the scale compared to the constant barrage of insults those that don’t meet current western norms of conventional attractiveness face. There’s also no systemic component that I can think of.

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I really don't think there's a thing. Sure people are assholes but I don't think the whole concept of "beauty shaming" is real. All types of people are drugged, raped, sexually harassed. That isn't just limited to the beautiful people. And the benefits of being a more attractive person severely outweigh the negatives that come with beauty.

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I was equally hurt when I was overweight and body shamed as I was when I was underweight and body shamed. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Unfortunately in today’s world you’ll get shamed, judged, attacked, etc no matter what you do or look like.

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No. Being conventionally attractive has been proven to benefit people in society. Even if one person shamed them for it, that doesn’t take away from how their looks benefit them and definitely doesn’t have the same impact when they’re shamed for their looks.

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1.) Not sure what you were implying with the skinny shaming comment but it’s very real and should be treated as such
and 2.) I don’t know about “beauty shaming”, I think the closest to it would just be being sexualized.

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I feel that beauty shaming definitely does exist! 
I don’t think anything that you mentioned is shaming though. More so just fucking creepy.
Shaming of any kind is a form of bullying. 
A lot of people get shamed/bullied for being pretty. I’ve seen it a lot. It happens & it’s just as hurtful as any other.
It may not be as big of an issue as fat shaming but it is shaming nonetheless.

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Yes it’s called being a hater 😂😂 
In all seriousness though. There’s 2 sides to every story. Where there’s fat shaming, you will find skinny shaming, where there’s “ugly shaming” there will e pretty shaming” 
People are always going to be assholes there’s no changing that. But when did we stop teaching our kids “sticks and stones”? When did we start teaching people to accept negativity as truth? 
I feel like a lot of these problems would be solved if we focused more on teaching people (or out children) to love themselves unconditionally than what we do on negative experiences we wouldnt have to worry about who is shaming who.

Is "beauty shaming" real?

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