Miscarriage and no support! Help!

So I had a miscarriage at 4 weeks and 5 days. My husband and I were so excited. So when we found out we lost we were devastated.

I’m the type of person that doesn’t like to talk about hard times with anyone besides my husband. I like to be alone (alone or with him) and not talk to anyone on the phone. Well when this happened I told my sister what happened over text and told her to tell my mom since she is visiting for Christmas. My sister understood.

Well I get a text later in the day from my mom saying if I need to talk to call. So because I was going through a rough time I didn’t respond and just kept on crying in bed. Well we finally were able to go to the dr later in the day to confirm my miscarriage. So I texted my mom and just said it was confirmed. So she said she was going to call me in 20min. So I caved and said call me now if you want to talk. She was driving me crazy so I just gave her what she wanted so we could be done with it. So at home later at night. She calls again. I ignore her because I already explained I didn’t want to talk before even talking to her the first time. So I go to bed. Wake up the next morning to her calling again. Then 10 min later a text asking about hotels. So I text her “ I’m not sure why you were calling but I was sleeping” well she goes on calling me rude and ignorant and maybe I should answer my phone then. So whatever i dropped it for a few min and then caved again because I felt guilty. I offered to look for a hotel for her. We were just texting but that’s more than I wanted to do. Let’s just say she always judges how much my husband and I go away on vacations. But she wants to spend $500 a night on this upcoming trip. So I said “maybe if you weren’t so picky about your room you could come to Hawaii too”! Well she didn’t say much until I found her a better deal. I wrote “$600 total for 3 nights is what I found on Expedia” her reply...”and”! So I asked her “and what” she’s like I thought you were being rude and judgmental!

She knows when she says that it makes me mad on a good day. So when I’m going through a miscarriage, why would she say that. I feel like she’s being insensitive and trying trigger me in a rough time. I blocked her for a few days to deal with myself and our loss. I sent her a message asking if she was done being insensitive? And long story short I don’t feel like I owe her a apology because she should be supportive and there for me and not trying to anger me. It’s like she was poking the bear!

Then she tells my sister I hurt her feelings and upset her! Now I feel like she’s making this about her.

Am I wrong? Am over reacting? I feel like she made this who loss thing harder than it already is? Am I the bitch? Let’s also clarify, I’m 29, happily married to a man my parents love, and live in another province! Don’t know if that matters for a outside opinion. Am I the insensitive and rude one?