Husband’s family😡

Okay ladies I have been with my husband for a while and are baby boy is 3 now when my husband and I started dating his family never like to do anything for thanksgiving or Christmas bc his stepmom lost her dad it was to hard now all of a sudden they want to get together and eat and do gifts but just with my husband and our son. Last month I told my in laws that I was going to go to my family’s house for the holidays this year bc last year I didn’t get to see them and this year was my year to be there with my family so well I did go down there and have been here for about 4 days and now I have both in laws attacking me bc I won’t drive home tomorrow morning to be there for our son to be give his gift or to eat with them they want to drive them self to come pick him up and take him home with them what the hell do you do I don’t wanna be rude but if I have to be I will bc it’s my little family and when your husband is on your side it makes it bettter but I don’t know what to do.