Upset... Should i be?

Question

Well I'm upset and I'm not sure if I should be... Its peak time for TTC in the next 24 hours and my OH was just not interested again... We've been trying 6 months and I'm to start having blood tests done next month as I'm 38 and don't know what's going wrong. I just don't know what to do, I feel like giving up and not bothering with the tests now as the OH can't be bothered. He's now gone to work stroppy as I felt frustrated that once again he turned me down right when its most important. He says he wants a family but often says he's not in the mood for trying. Its not like he's under pressure and we've taken the wait a see what happens approach. I'm just at a loss and so sad. Its not him having the tests like I'll have to go through, so he doesn't realise what it means to try to avoid them as they can be so invasive. Has anyone any suggestions?  I just want to cry....

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Gosh, I could have written this post myself. It is so frustrating to feel like you're OH is squandering your chances. My husband has performance issues if I tell him it's O time, from the pressure. But if I don't tell him, he often says he's too tired. It's like there's no winning in that situation. I wish I had some advice, just wanted to say I understand.

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Totally with you!!!
He gets on my case about having a drink during TWW but consistently has a cold or is too tired during my peak time. This month I didn’t even tell him and he legitimately had a cold! 
It’s already frustrating to feel like my partner is not in the same page, then to feel like he’s not attracted to me when I go on a limb and try to turn him on is depressing. Frankly I’m not sure what we can do but wait it out—I don’t think shaking him into his senses will help (but I guess you never know what a guy may be into... lol)
Sorry for hijacking your thread but I’ve found myself typing the deleting the same feeling month after month! 
/rant

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I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It’s tough to keep things fun when we’re logging and temping and checking cm, and I know for my s.o it just wasn’t a turn on to hear “I’m ovulating, let’s do this”. I started just keeping all of that info out of the conversation, and I’d just make a move instead. It worked for us! I think while he wants a baby he doesn’t want that to be the main focus of our sex life. I hope this helps, and that your little miracle is just around the corner. Baby dust to you! 🤞🏼✨

Upset... Should i be?

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