Chemical pregnancies- some people don't see it as real

I can't stand the term chemical pregnancy. I opened up to a friend about how I lost a baby on Christmas day at just 4.5 weeks (after strong positives including on digitals). At first she was sweet and sympathetic but then proceeded to tell me how common chemical pregnancies are and that I'm lucky that's all it was. I am so upset. I know that I wasn't very far along but I was so excited, and losing it on Christmas day was horrendous. I feel like she isn't taking my sadness seriously because it was so early. It was real to me and wish others saw it that way. 🙁