MIL won’t even let me push my son in his stroller...

Hi all, I’ve been looking for advice on handling my in-laws and wanted to hear similar situations to what I’m going through. I had a pretty good relationship with my in-laws before my DS was born, but now things are going down hill...

Since my DS was born my in-laws have insisted on coming over every weekend. They live an hour away, so when they visit for the day they will stay for 8-10 hours. While visiting, my MIL will basically take over my role as my sons mother. She insists on completing every diaper change, feeding, and getting son down for naps, etc. I know some mothers would enjoy this break, but when I say she takes over... she takes over completely.

For example, my FIL was holding my son yesterday and needed to go outside so he handed me my son... my MIL runs over and grabs him out of my arms the second I get him and says “oh I’ll take him again!” And doesn’t even ask if maybe I wanted to hold him. Another example is when we are out at a zoo, theme park, etc... and I get the stroller out, she will immediately put herself in front of the stroller so that she can only stroll him and doesn’t allow anyone else the chance too. If I did in fact have the stroller myself and tell her that I want to push my son, she will stand next to me and “help” me push him. In other instances, If I have him and am using a baby wearer, she is literally on top of us (getting in DS face) which in turn is getting in mine since I’m using a Baby Bjorn and so on.

I know my in-laws mean well and love my DS, but my DH works a lot of hours and I like to enjoy the weekends as a family of 3. When we asked them to cut down weekly visits to just 3-4 hours my MIL said that’s “just not enough time” and guilt trips us into longer visits.

Gentle talks have not worked and more stern talks seem to make them both mad and then grudges are held and they act as if we don’t want them around at all, which is not the case. We are in our late 20’s and still enjoy seeing our friends on the weekends as well and now incorporate our son in these get togethers because our friends also enjoy visiting our DS. I feel as if we are still treated as children and they don’t realize we now have our own child. Anyone else in a similar situation?

Would love to hear from other momma’s as we are the first of our friends to have kids and don’t feel like I have anyone to relate to. Thanks!