I NEED an outside perspective, advice, anything PLEASE

My ex boyfriend was my best friend since daycare and we started dating in high school, but officially got together our first year of college. I’m talking picture perfect, goals-worthy relationship... except, his parents have always tried to split us up.

They beat him and manipulate him all throughout childhood and adolescence, and they still slap him sometimes and verbally and psychologically abuse him (WHERE are you WHO are you with WHAT are you doing WHY didn’t you tell me WHEN are you coming home HOW long have you been out)

Funny thing is, they’re so nice to my face, and so catty behind my back. These are 40-something year old adults acting like the high school bullies I had to deal with for four years.

We were together for one year and four days after our anniversary, he left me. I didn’t say a word to him for months and met up last week for the first time... we still love each other.

He’s an Apostolic Christian and I’m a Catholic Christian. Shouldn’t be a problem, right?

Well, his parents and some of his community didnt like me because not only am I different from them in a minor way, I hadn’t been baptized in their church – even though Ive gone occasionally with my old babysitter since I was little. I even went every Sunday and respected them very much. Never got that respect in return...

He’s the pastor’s grandson. His entire family basically owns and lives in that church.

I want to say he needs to STAND UP FOR ME AND TELL THEM YOURE GOING TO BE WITH ME NO MATTER WHAT. And we have had that discussion many times.

He has no power... we’re 19 and live in a small town with no money living in our parents’ houses. His family is willing to kick him out if he doesn’t obey their every authoritarian command.

My dilemma is, we agreed to wait for each other. That’s some Romeo and Juliet shit right there. I mean it feels like some forbidden medieval scenario but it’s my real life.

But his response to my silence following the breakup (my mentality was IM AN INDEPENDENT WOMAN WHO DOESNT OWE YOU SHIT aNd I’m gonna take care of myself) was to ignore me back. And yeah, he’s allowed to do that, but it pissed me tf off.

A guy came along and wanted to treat me like a queen, so I thought about it and um yeah why would I wait around for a guy who won’t even stand up to his parents for me? Why would I wait for someone who ignores me like a piece of shit? I gave this new guy a chance (turns out he’s a piece of shit too, will never return the favor and eat me out). And I kept it a secret but of course someone from his church in our small town saw us on a date and now they all know. The least of my concerns...

He still met up with me and we got to talk a little bit before his mom found out he was seeing me and yelled at him to gtfo and come home. He was sincere and I can’t deny the fact I will always love him. I just don’t know what to do. My gut says leave the rebound and wait for the one I really love. But... that means waiting until we graduate college and get our own places. I’m just confused.