Rough visit to the dr :( anyone have any insight?

Question

:( I went to the doctor today to try to find out why for the first time in my life I missed my period but an not pregnant. No luck. All she seemed to tell me was how overweight I am. I am well aware of my weight issues, I was looking to find out why out of the blue I missed my period. No help at all.

Now instead of trying to be positive about ttc all I can focus on is my weight and feeling bad about myself.

She did a pelvic exam and all good there and she took some blood but does not expect to gleam anything from the results.

Has anyone had any luck in finding a provider who will be supportive of a plus size pregnancy? I feel so downtrodden :(

Sorry to rant, just need some insight from other plus size ttc ladies.

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I am lucky to have a doctor that doesn't do this... If anything I think I worry more about my weight than he does (or at least that he shows). However, when I was pregnant with my daughter (who's 6 now) there was one nurse who always made it a point to tell me how overweight I was and how I shouldn't be gaining anything during pregnancy and that the baby should be causing me to lose weight... Well one day I was full of pregnancy "bitchy" hormones and when she started her rant I said "oh why excuse me Dr. G (my docs name) last time I was here you were 6'3 ish, bald, a man!!! & told me I was fine.... Who knew you could change so much in a month" when she looked at me all shocked, I continued to say "yes, that's right... You're NOT my doctor—so take my blood pressure like a NURSE is supposed to and leave the doctoring to my DOCTOR!!"  That lady never said another word to me!! My suggestion is to find a provider that's plus-size friendly. Nothing worse than feeling so down on yourself after those types of appointments.   Good luck Hun!

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A missed period  can come from many thing like stress, not sleeping right, change  of jobs, medication,  and more. I am in the same boat as both of you. I am 360 lbs and have PCOS and i just started birth control two months ago so i can start a wight loss pill so i can conceive. I frist lost my period because of being over weight. When I started to have extremely bad cramps, like not being abled to walk because it hurt so bad to move let alone stand, without my period they found i had PCOS. 
Yes wight does have a lot to do with your period and conceiving. It doesn't just put you at a high risk but also the baby. For interest, you and/or your baby can trun out to be diabetic after brith, have high blood pressure, and more. You could also put your baby at a high risk for a miscarriage. All the harmful things that being over weight does to the mother can also do to the baby. 
On a good note there also have been many  perfectly healthy baby's that have came from over weight mothers. 
Also, it is normal for any women, healthy or not healthy, skin or overweight, to miss a period once in while. Don't stress over it. The more you stress the more likely you'll miss another one next month.

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I'm always worried about that when I go to the doctor. I have an obgyn apt next month and I'm stressing about it. I have pcos and I have to have help to conceive I feel like I'm being judged hard to have the right of pregnancy which many it comes so easy :(

Rough visit to the dr :( anyone have any insight?

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