I'm in love with someone in not even dating!

Okay so me and this guy have been hanging out for 3 weeks now. He's literally the guy of my dreams. I've never been so happy with someone in my life, definitely feels like love. Problem is I think he is scared to ask me out because he knows it's real but doesn't wanna be broken hearted. I believe if a guy really likes you then he will date you. I'm patiently waiting but what if I'm waiting for nothing? My heart hurts every time I'm alone because I wanna be with him. HELP! How do I get this feeling to go away or what should I do?
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El

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You should definitely bring it up to him since he hasn't already. Don't be afraid, there's nothing wrong with you asking first. He may just be really shy. Go for it ! 

Ka

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Start hanging out with one other guy!  See if that makes him speak his feelings to U!!! Males are jealous with what they think is theirs... They don't like to share either!!! LOL

Je

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Ask him out, girl.

Br

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Ask him out!

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Is he single, or are we talking about an involved man? If he is single, then you ask him out! There isn't a concrete rule that the man has to initiate a date. I asked my husband on our 1st date 8.5 years ago & it was the best thing I have done in my life!If he is involved with another woman, then I think you should try to forget about it & maybe go have fun with family & friends & meet new people to have a good time with (I don't mean in a romantic or sexual manner). Just go have fun & lose yourself in friends & family & focus on you & try to stop thinking about him.

Ab

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My now husband and I were kind of in the same situation. However, I asked him if he saw this going anywhere and he said, "I like you, just not sure I want a relationship." I took it as, "I want to be single still and talk to other people." About a week later I said, "I can't do this and don't want to waste anyones time. If we aren't going to date, then I have to stop." Right then he asked me out. Now we are married, expecting a baby and absolutely couldn't be happier. Oh. And turns out, he wasn't talking to other girls either. Good luck!

Ja

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Ask him if he could ever see his self with a girl like you

Ja

Jane`🌷 • May 31, 2015
I was in the same situation with my hubby until he one of his family members asked him if it was ok if they took me out...his response was "hell no you can't ask her out" he still doesn't know that's why I decided to stick around but for 6 months he never even held my hand! talk about friend zone

Re

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I'm in the same situation I'm still in love with my ex but I have a good man in my life and it tears my heart apart because I can't love him the way I should

Me

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Just some advice. I met my fiance years ago. And for about a year after we started spending time with each other it ended up being the same situation. We pretty much just ended up best friends because we kept friend zoning each other without even knowing it. I was do afraid he wouldn't want me in that way and visa versa. Finally one day I couldnt hardly take it anymore and I flat out told him I was in love with him. I told him I was so afraid to tell him because I didn't want to ruin the amazing friendship we had but he seemed relieved I told him. Here we are a year later, engaged, and expecting a baby 😄 what I would suggest is tell him you want to be honest and express your feelings and at very least if he doesn't reciprocate that you value your friendship nonetheless.