my husband and I both have noticed a low sex drive for him for the last 3 years. originally I thought it was because the wedding was coming up and stress related but his sex drive didn't bounce back after the wedding.

we have talked about this, and he's going to the doctor to find out if its maybe low testosterone.

we don't have sex regularly. at all. it's not something I expected as a newlywed. my sex drive feels pretty normal, so it sucks to feel incompatible in this area of our relationship.

like I've said, we've talked about it and how it affects me (way more than I'd like to admit) and he said I just have to tell him, or ask when my needs get really high.

even though we've been together 6 years, I feel VERY AWKWARD in this initiating-the-sex thing. I've become really good a suppressing my sex-needs lol. (also not something I expected as a newlywed)

I think some of the fear holding me back from initiating sex is the possibility he says no. Which is totally ok. I would never make him do anything he doesn't feel like. But that's a little version of rejection and that feeling sucks.

Anyway, I don't talk about such personal things with any friends so I've never said these things to anyone other than my husband. Just wanted to get these thoughts and feelings out