I am posting anonymously because of safety reasons....

I live in a 3 bedroom home with 2 baths, a large living room and kitchen with large dining area.

My sister in law (husbands sister) lives with us with her husband and her two kids (a 12 year old boy who wasnt born in the U.S. and her 2 and a half year old boy who was born here.)

She rents a room in our home because they lost their home and thats another huge story.

Well she has always treated her bigger kid like a mother should except she verbally abuses him to the extreme. She has told him that he can go live away with his dad (he is from a previous marriage) and sometime she even tells him to pack his shit and leave.

I am very uncomfortable with this and I just hug this pre teen and tell him he will be safe in my house and that he can always tell me whatever is wrong.

Well everysince her second child was born she does nothing but scream at the poor toddler. She screams at him untill he starts crying and sometimes the father tells her "what the heck is she doing?" and she says that she is teaching him a lesson because one day he is going to grow up and he will be a problem child.

I am a very out there type of person, I speak my mind. I tell her that a child that is being screamed at will never listen and its a bad pattern she is creating.

The child cries and she screams at him next thing you know she is babying' him and the toddler gets what he wants and then he does something bad and she smacks his hand and then the screaming again.

I would love to fix this and I have gotten her to stop screaming but it just goes off most of the time.