How do I know it’s over?

A year and a half ago I met this guy while playing a computer game; we ended up being really good friends and started hanging out every night in game. During the time I was already seeing someone so my relationship with him was strictly friends. 6 months into our friendship my boyfriend and I broke up and my friend and I started hanging out more and more. Of course he lived out of state so us ‘hanging’ out was texting every single day and voice chatting all night long.

At one point he confessed that he had liked me all this time and was hoping for a chance for something more. However I hadn’t gotten over my breakup yet so I refused and set boundaries for us. I made it very clear that him liking me and me not reciprocating those feelings made me feel incredibly awful.

I’m not going to lie though, every morning when he would text me good morning, every moment in between when he would randomly text me letting me know he couldn’t wait til I got off work, and every single night when he told me good night and called me beautiful really started to melt away at my heart. So I decided to give us a chance.

We are currently dating now and he has moved states to be with me fully, but things are literally falling apart. I’m just so confused and disappointed with how things have turned out.

This guy who used to give me the world, tell me I’m beautiful, would want to spend every moment with me, has literally disappeared. Now he doesn’t even compliment me, he doesn’t even want to hangout with me half the time anymore.

Last month I caught him on the phone with someone and asked him if he was talking to a girl. Don’t get me wrong, he is more than allowed to talk to and hangout with other girls, the only thing that made me really upset about this whole situation is that when I asked him, he told me he wasn’t talking to a girl but his friend that was over overheard me asking and admitted to me that he WAS. We ended up having a pretty big fight over the situation because he told me she was just a friend, which I just don’t understand that if she was just a friend, why he couldn’t just tell me yes instead of denying it from the start. Fast forward 2 weeks after that, we were getting ready to hop into a game and he needed to use the restroom so he told me to watch his game timer. I noticed that he had been talking to our friend Jess and giving her advice, which was totally fine with me until I read a little more and saw that he was telling her how much he ‘appreciated’ her and all of this crap, yet he hasn’t once said any of those things to me since moving here to be with me.

I’ve expressed my feelings and frustrations about this entire situation to him so many times, and every time he tells me he’s going to try harder next time, but every time ‘next time’ happens the whole cycle repeats itself all over again. This has been going on for the last 3 months now and I just don’t know if I wanna keep trying. I’m not even sure if I SHOULD keep trying.

This is the first time I’ve dated anyone long distance like this, none the less have them move states to be with me.

Does anyone have experience in this kind of situation? I’d appreciate your opinion and advice.