Husband Rant

Writing out of frustration! I love my hubby. We've been married for 5 years this year, going on one year of TTC. Its like pulling teeth trying to get him to have sex on my fertile days. Any other time, it's fine. Even though it's been a year of trying, it's really just been me trying.. 6 months of him not having sex with me on my fertile days because I didn't want to tell him I was fertile so it didn't give him performance anxiety. The last 3 months, we will BD, but he is never able to ejaculate, which ONLY happens on my fertile days.. It's just so frustrating because I don't want him to get upset, but I almost feel like he's not wanting to. And yes, we've had long conversations about it all, but it just keeps happening. Before you say it, yes I've been romantic, I've cooked him fancy dinner, I've played the baby making music, I've tried role-playing and spicing things up in the bedroom. What else should I do?