Ugh!....

Ok so, a little back story, my husband and I have been ttc for about 5 years now and over the many dr appointments, HSGs, specialists, and a surgery we found out that we have to do IVF (we r trying for twins btw). anyway we started that about a week ago and my husband knows that I want to be private about it and not say anything till the first trimester but he disagrees (his opinion and I respect that) so we compromised, we would tell our parents if it worked. Well, he took that as an ok to tell his family EVERY LITTLE THING THAT I HAVE TO DO. I feel like instead of the 2 of us ttc, there’s like 6 of us! Anyway I was talking to my SIL today and she tells me that my FIL and MIL are having a conversation right now bout how I’m gonna arrange a room in MY house for twins. I can see them now, working through all the possibilities and layouts in their minds. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for help, but seriously this isn’t the first time they’ve (SHE’S) done something like this! I know what I want and I know how to get it. My MIL thinks that because I don’t take a week and a half to contemplate something that I didn’t think about it at all and that I’m compulsive. She second guesses just about EVERYTHING I decide! I’ve been independent for about 8 years now (I left home at 19) haven’t needed anyone, so when my husband tells me that i need to take a few days to think about something my MIL suggests and not be so blunt and absolute, it kinda pisses me off!! Just because I don’t take a “few days to think it through” doesn’t mean that I don’t think it through, or that I haven’t already thought about that specific thing before she even suggested it. Just because she suggests something doesn’t mean that that’s the first time hearing it. When I decide to do something, I think about ALL the pros and cons and alternative options before even bringing it up!!