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Question

I've known this girl (Lena) for a year now, she's been with her boyfriend for approx. 3 years but he is so unfaithful to her but she doesn't believe so. One night, my boyfriend let me go out partying with my friends, lena's boyfriend came along with her but I wasn't surprised, it's like he has her on a leash, he doesn't trust her with us "apparently my friends and I are very bad influence to her"

So my friends drank and danced the whole night but I don't drink or smoke so I spent my time taking pictures and laughing. Lena joined them with her boyfriend but he later came back to the seats where I was sitting, he sat next to me, that didn't bother me until he started putting his hands on my thighs! I pushed away his hands and went to the dance floor. I didn't say anything to him or anyone else.

While I was on the dance floor acting silly with my friends and random people. I noticed that he started dancing around me and then he pulled me towards him and tried to kiss me! Luckily he missed my lips because I turned and his lips landed on my cheek.

I told my friends that I had decided to go home so I called my boyfriend to pick me up and left the party. Lena's boyfriend followed me out and started saying that he's had feelings for me for a while now. I told him that he should be focusing on his girl and not me and that if he doesn't leave me alone, I'll ruin his relationship.

I couldn't sleep the whole night so I told my boyfriend and he got so pissed. He drove up to his apartment dragging me along. They got into a fist fight and then I tried telling Lena what happened. I just found out that she went around telling people stuff about me.

She blames this all on me, saying that I was dressed like a whore and I'm the reason to blame, that if I dressed more classy, her man wouldn't lust over me. Now she's busy apologizing and saying that it's not all my fault. I'm so sad and stressed.. I don't know how to take it. Or how to react cause all I want to do is punch her teeth out.

But I've learned to be the bigger person so Im just going to rant 😊😊😊

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She knows he is a jerk but doesn't want to believe it.  It is easier to turn you into the bad guy then to deal with her own problems.  Just keep your distance from now until she wisest up and leaves him.  No amount of honesty, is going to change her mind right now.

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Definitely not a friend... Damn, girl..

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What? You boyfriend allowed you to go out with your mates? Since when do you need permission, I'd me more concern about that than what your mate is doing

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People's first reaction is always the right one! She told you what she thinks about you so just drop her!

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You are allowed to dress any way you want so what is she trying to say you had it coming that girl does not need to be your friend because she is a "girl" I don't know her and I'm mad that she is blaming all this on how you were dressed smh were you suppose to wear a turtle neck your at a club drop her like a hot potato

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I've been through this same exact thing.. I even had text messages to PROVE that I told him his girlfriend of 10 years was my really good friend and it wasn't appropriate and I cared about her so he needed to STOP. He didn't, and one day she asked me point blank. I screen shotted all of the messages and sent them to her.. She STILL blamed me, spread rumors about me and made it out like I was the whore and what not.. Is not worth it.. Let her go!!

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She wasn't never a real friend anyways if she have to blame u for it and basically choosing him over u when men come and go and he cheating anyways

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Yeah I agree she prob knows he is a jerk and took it out on you it isn't your fault and she should know how he is and she just was in denial

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Yeah I think she didn't want to blame her boyfriend so she took it out on you, it sucks but it'll pass. If you're going to forgive her you have to understand WHY she said it so just ask.

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She isn't a real friend if she spoke to you that way. Chicks before dicks man. I would never accuse one of my girlfriends of ever lying to me. I have known them much longer and trust them.If they told me my man did something like that to them I would confront him with her there. Nope. She is in a bad relationship and needs to blame the problem on someone other than herself or her man.

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