Family issues + gender reveal + baby shower

Ah where do i start.

Husbands mom and dad are divorced. It did not end pretty. They are not on good terms at all til this day.

For our wedding we did a private ceremony / wedding moon. We didn’t keep it a secret so it wasn’t an elopement but we basically went on our honey moon and got married during that just him and I in front of a waterfall (it was perfect lol) so that solved that issue.

Now, KIDS. Lol

Pregnant and I’d love to have a simple gender reveal with family if we have one at all. BUT that would mean less people and less people means more awkward even if both his mom and dad decide to go.

Now, you’d think they could be adults right ? My old high school friend tagged me in a pic of my husband as a baby in a stroller and he was next to my husband (baby as well) and the parents were in the pic. Both his mom and dad. I did not tag my mother in law, but since she saw it on my page she said to please block her from seeing that photo/post that she does not want to see anything that has to do with him. I felt that was a bit extra but okay. I dont know to what extent the issues between them are. She can be a liar but he is also sort of looney. So idk who’s side is the correct side if there is any.

If we don’t include the father and his girlfriend I just feel that isn’t fair either.

Other option is I can not throw either (im not really wanting a baby shower but a gender reveal might be fun) but that just keeps avoiding the situation. Eventually our kid will have a 1 year old party and so on.

WHAT DO I DO ? Advice ?

We saw his dad recently when we told him we were pregnant. He brought this issue up and said some smart comment about him being 99% sure of not making a scene. I made it known that will be 100% not making a scene and i will definitely tell that to my mother in law as well if not both of them can/will be put on probation from seeing their grandchildren. I’m not playing that shit