Am I overreacting? *long post*

The other day my father in law called my husband and confronted us that there are rumors going around the family that I am abusing my oldest daughter. The allegations are based on very very OLD posts from a Facebook mom group where I had reached out for help because I felt my bond with my daughter was strained, due to her adjusting to new transitions (new baby brother and moving) and my postpartum depression. I never said I didn’t love her or that I didn’t want her any more. I just asked if it was normal and for advice on how to fix it.

I also asked for alternatives to spankings and timeout because I felt that these methods were not very effective. I didn’t like the frequency in which we had to use them and I wanted some creative suggestions. That is NOT the equivalent of “I can’t stop beating her”. My drama queen spoiled rotten princess of a cousin in law who has been an issue for me since day one (saw me in Taco Bell with my husband and literally texted the family I dress like a whore. Hadn’t even met anyone yet) is the one that has screen shotted these posts and has been twisting my words and spreading them around the family.

The thing is, my father in law didn’t come to us calmly or kindly. He called my husband, not me, and claims he “came to the source” and didn’t think I belonged in the conversation (how is that coming to the source?) where he in a very accusatory and hostile way accused me of abusing jade and told us that if he finds any grain of truth he’s obligated to call CPS as a mandated reporter. You guys I LOST it. This family is so full of drama in general and I have never once caused or been apart of a problem. He has known me since high school and the fact that he thinks there could possibly be ANY truth to what was said, the fact that he allowed people around him to gossip about me like that, the fact that let’s just pretend the gossip was true (turns my stomach to even think about) he would be willing to call CPS and rip my family apart instead of first trying to help the situation, the fact that he thinks his son could possibly allow his daughter to be abused, AND HE DID ALL THINGS THINGS WITHOUT BOTHERING TO VERIFY THESE POSTS HIMSELF. All these things infuriated me to my core and I went OFF on him. I am a very gracious person and I let a lot of things slide but this insulted me to my core. I told him if he dared to make a call based on unfounded gossip he would no longer have contact with his grandchildren. He accused me of making threats and I calmly told him it’s a promise not a threat.

He then accused me of being irrational and demanded to only speak with my husband. So I quietly recorded the last of the conversation in which he tries to control our reactions by telling us he needed calm and collected responses. You can’t control how other people react while threatening to call CPS on them. He insulted me at every level before I went off too, he accused me of needing hospitalization and and medication, (like I’d ever admit needing those things while your telling me you’d have to call cps.) I am just so hurt right now but I’m also 5 weeks pregnant. I know I got extra hormones in me. Am I justified being so hurt? Would you have gone off too?