What should I do...?

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January of 2017. My fiance and I lost our baby at 8 weeks and 5 days. the baby didn't have a heartbeat. After ttc since then. I took a test after being late for my period. Which these last couple months isn't so uncommon...well it turned out postive! I'm pregnant. I'm so happy and yet I'm terrified. im terrified of breathing or walking...... My best friend is saying I shouldn't tell anyone until after my first trimester. But I don't want to hide my rainbow baby,but at the same time I don't want to jinx anything..... What should I Do?

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don't tell until 12 wks

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Once I started speaking out, and talking to people about what I was going through when I had my miscarriage, it was insane the amount of people that were telling me they had had a miscarriage or they knew someone else that had.
The sole reason I posted about my miscarriage was because statistically, 1 in 4 women will have a miscarriage (AND that is just the reported numbers, so it could be much higher than that!!) and going through something like that is so isolating. I felt like I had this dirty little secret, yet I was dying inside just to be able to talk to someone and say “hey, I’m not okay!” 
I don’t even understand how this is still such a taboo topic!
I’ve done a lot of reading over the last few months, and there were a few things that really struck me. One being that every life should be celebrated, no matter how short or how long. I read an article that said “I didn’t tell people we were expecting, then our baby died, and I wished I had”.
I don’t think there is ever any right time to announce, you just do it when you’re ready! 
I would happily shout it to the world, but my partner is far more reserved about it than I am, so I have him to consider too.
At the end of the day, a miscarriage can happen at ANY point throughout a pregnancy, albeit the statistics drop dramatically after a certain point but who can predict the future?
After I spoke out, I received so much support and only wish I had spoken out sooner. 
If you feel comfortable talking about a miscarriage, then I personally don’t see why you shouldn’t be able to talk about a pregnancy!!

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I feel like anything I do could just make it all go away again. in April, my fiance and son and I had a vacation planned to fly back to PA (where were from) to see our parents and families. But the day after we leave is exactly 8 weeks and 5 days. I'm so afraid to fly...I can't really cancel because it's to get our fur babies to move them into our new home.. I'm so lost and scared and excited ugh I don't even know what to think honestly haha..

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Our first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage and we told people early and it was just really hard😔 With this pregnancy we didn't tell anyone until 13weeks. Now we're almost 17weeks and I'm starting to feel baby!! Praying your little bean will be sticky this time!!💕

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We just told family members this week. I’m almost 12 weeks. To be perfectly honest no one should tell you when you should announce. It’s up to you. We announced pretty much right away with our first baby we lost. It was heartbreaking for my husband and I. Having to tell my parents was traumatizing because my mom was wallowing in her own pain of the loss instead of offering any words of support. I had to hang up on her. I couldn’t go through that again and that’s why we chose to wait. It all comes down to what you and your SO want to do. Congratulations on your rainbow baby and I wish you the best of luck.

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also sorry for youre loss

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I am currently 6 weeks pregnant after my stillborn at 36 weeks 5 month ago. I am taking a day at a time trying to enjoy this one as much as I can as I feel I'm not safe all the way through. that's all I can suggest you do take a day at a time. Maybe wait till you're a lil further along till share the news I have only shared with a few close family. I don't want any baby stuff in my house till baby is here home and healthy. I don't want to scare you. but try relax hun I'm in same boat once 12 weeks is over I feel I can relax a lil then I will worry as get nearer my 8 month again. if you ever need to talk give is a shout

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