Friends with benefits

I've had a fwb for almost a year now and I told him I have feelings for him. He knows I want to settle down and I want a relationship. I told him this once before and he said he has to focus on his kids and he wasn't ready for a relationship. I thought we were going to stop with the benefits but he asked to hang out just as friends and we ended up having sex and basically we just continued what we were doing. I started seeing a therapist and she doesn't like this guy at all. She thinks he's stringing me a long but I just think he's taking his time. Recently I told him again I have feelings and I need to focus on a guy that will give me what I want. A relationship an a future. He said we can go on a date and see where it goes from there. I see this as hopeful but friends and my therapist think he's just using me for sex and there will be no future.