Will he marry me or should I just count it as a loss?

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We have been together for over 7 years. We don’t live together and are not engaged. He stays at my house at least 5 nights out of the week. We have discussed marriage but he says he’s not ready (he’s 37 and I’m 44) and he doesn’t want to marry someone that doesn’t trust him (he cheated in the beginning and it’s been hard for me to get over because he feels that he shouldn’t have to be the one to build my trust in him back up 😒) It’s pretty much like we plan to stay together because we make future plans for vacations, etc just not for marriage. Some days I’m ok with it and some days I’m not. I know he loves me. I have no doubt about that but will he ever marry me? I really do want to marry him but am I waiting for something that will never happen?

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He cheated and he doesn’t think it’s his job to build up your trust? He clearly has no respect for you. You should have left. If he hasn’t married you by now... he probably never will

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Why would you want to marry someone you don't trust?

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you need to move on a man his age shouldn't even be acting like that like he should be wanting to settle down okay dont waist anymore time I mean shit children marriage a happy life I see non of these words coming from him then I'd be gone and he cheated he doesn't deserve you and he sure isn't showing he is sorry for what he did

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Count it as a loss.

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Sounds like he doesn’t want that type of commitment.
At that age it really is time to settle down and have a family.
He’s probably not going to marry you, especially if he said he doesn’t want to.
Have you started trusting him at all? What does he do that you still don’t trust him?
It’s definitely a two way street, you have to trust him and he has to be trustworthy.
You guys need to talk about this.
Then again some people are together their whole lives and never get married, he may be one of those people.

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You don’t need any advice because you just answered your own question. “I’m waiting on something that will never happen.” If you honestly feel that way and it’s been seven years, I’m not 💯 sure he’ll marry. He’s content and feels you are also. If you want to stay in the relationship as it is, that’s your choice, but if you want to become someone partner in marriage you need to leave your present relationship , understand your worth, work on you as an individual and then date in hopes of finding the right man for marriage. Wishing you the best of luck.

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Lol. A person of his age shouldn’t be acting like that. Clearly you need to move on. If you have to question things if won’t work out. Plus he cheated and doesn’t think he needs to build trust. Bye.

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You’ve been together 7 years but never even moved in together? And he cheated and hasn’t even tried to build up your trust again and at 37 he doesn’t feel ready for marriage? I’d run, that relationship seems like a dead end. He sounds like he has the maturity of an 18 year old.

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I'm also 44...my bf is 55.  I am of the mindset that younger than me is not old enough.   My bf often wonders aloud why I'm with him.  I tell him "Baby I prefer my men with experience and wisdom. "   Your bf is showing immaturity typical of men vs women of similar ages imo.  He needs to take responsibility for his actions.

Will he marry me or should I just count it as a loss?

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