C section? Tell me more

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Okay, can I be real with y'all? I'm not tryna be judged so please don't judge me. Also, this is nothing against C section mommies.
Yesterday I went to my OB appt. I thought my baby would be head down ready to go. She has been for 11 or 12 weeks. Basically since 26 weeks.
She isn't head down anymore. They told me that if she doesn't switch B next week Friday, 39 weeks and 1 day, they will do an ultrasound and go from there. 
Which was basically telling me I would have to get a cesarean. My midwife told me it'll be okay. I was kinda upset and just over everything. I didn't wanna deal with it anymore. 
I end up telling my mother, who has never had a cesarean, what happened. She told me don't work myself up or be upset. I couldn't help but to bawl crying. I wanted a natural  birth and all that. 
Away from that though, I need to know about a c section I know nothing about them. Like what's recovery like, how's your body gonna be after, what will sleeping be like, everything. 
I'm honestly really sad about this but I want her to be here. I have different doctors and midwives who see me. They all have different opinions. I told this midwife if she hasn't changed so late in the game then I want whatever needs to be done that day.
It's not like she isn't already full term. I just can't handle this anymore. I know my other midwife though would probably tell me that 41 weeks is best. And I should just be overdue. I don't want to be. Everything is going backwards. My cervix has gone back up and it's hard again. 
Does anyone know how I'm feeling? Can anyone give me words of advice? I really need some help. I'm sad, terrified, and honestly over being pregnant.

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Hi Alex I’m sorry you are going through this. I’m not going to give you the details of my c section because I don’t react to anesthesia like normal people. 
But I will tell you about my recovery. Me personally, it was actually not too bad for just having major surgery. The baby was delivered at midnight and they had me up walking by noontime. It was painful of course but nothing that a couple days of Vicodin and Tylenol couldn’t help with. 
The way they closed me up is they sutured me on the inside with dissolvable stitches and glue on the outside. Once it healed you could barely see a scar. My skin is essentially seamless. It’s really amazing how they did it. 
I think no matter how you have the baby it’s going to be uncomfortable, painful, stressful. But the good will always outweigh the bad. As soon as you hold that little angel, you start to forget what you just went through. You love that little baby so much that you would be willing to endure it over and over without hesitation just to have your little one in your life. 
You will be ok. You will get through it. Everyone feels stressed towards the end of their pregnancy it’s 100% normal.

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My baby was breach the whole pregnancy. We tried at ecv (where they manually try to turn bub), they don’t do this until very late in pregnancy as you can go into labour. It didn’t work for us, was really painful, and I wouldn’t do it again. 
I was booked in for c-section 39+4 but ended up going into labour at 39 weeks. Went straight to the hospital, they checked if bub has turned yet, she hadn’t so did the c-section. I was terrified about the needle in the back, but it wasn’t that bad. My chest felt right after they pulled bub out, but they gave me something to feel better. 
My recovery was fine. Definitely stay on top of your pain meds, take them when due, even if you don’t think you need them. And try to get up and move (carefully) as much as you can. I had no pain whatsoever, wound healed in a few weeks and can barely even see it now. 
I breastfed fine, milk took a few days but all good when it came in. And the bleeding afterwards was pretty much the same as vaginal birth I’m told. 
I’m having another c-section with my next one due in August coz the first went smoother than I ever thought it would. I don’t feel at all cheated or disappointed that I didn’t get to experience a vaginal birth.

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Have you asked your midwife about manually flipping the baby? That’s something that can be done right before birth in certain cases. But I think they like to wait and see if the baby will flip themselves before they talk about doing anything. It could be two weeks before the baby comes and that’s a lot of time for them to readjust in there!
For a c section you get some medicine that numbs you do you can’t feel anything but you’re still awake. They get you in and out in like a half hour, and in many cases you can still do skin to skin right after the baby comes out. You’ll need shaved before they do the surgery, so maybe just try to keep yourself shaved before you go into labor if you don’t wanna be shaved by nurses. They get you up and walking like 12 hours after surgery. You’re stiff but mostly just sore. You get pain meds to ease, and the upside is you won’t waddle everywhere for weeks and won’t be sore down there! 
Try to think positive, it’ll be okay!

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I didn't find out my son was breech until right before I turned 39 weeks....so talk about a huge shock. nobody in my family has ever had a csection so I was terrified. I knew I didn't want to do the procedure where they would try and turn him bc in my opinion he was breech for a reason. So they let me process the fact of having a csection and I went in the day before my due date. I never felt my epidural and I was told I would feel pressure, but the extent of pressure was crazy...it didn't hurt but was very very wierd and intense, mine could have been worse bc he was basically tucked under my ribs. It lasted maybe 30 minutes from start to being in recovery. Stay on the pain med schedule so that you don't have to play catch up if the pain starts. Get up slowly but as often as you can and stand up as straight as possible so you don't get used to being bent over. I went in on a Friday morning and left Sunday at lunch and I took my pain meds on schedule the first week then nothing by the 2nd week Bleeding wasn't bad like I thought. I think my belly looks like any person who has had a baby, I just have a scar lol

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