Is it rude to ask someone if they ever want to have kids?

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Talking about my kids with someone, is it rude to ask that?

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If you are talking about a potential partner than it’s not rude, and it’s information you need to know, if it’s another woman I think it is rude, especially if she is over 35, as it’s can come across as judgmental

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I have mixed feelings on this. I don’t think it’s a rude question but you never know what someone is going through with infertility or something similar and the question could affect them a lot differently  than you think.

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are you talking about this with a date or an acquaintance? with the former it's absolutely acceptable to ensure you're on the same page. with the latter I think it's not your business and could be really awkward for the other person.

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I typically try not to because I’ve asked and found out they’ve been trying, or they’ve had miscarriages, or they can’t have them. I usually let them bring it up - unless I’m super close with them. But to each their own!

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I think if it's your friend or someone closer than just an acquaintance, it's ok to ask. But the phrasing is important. If you ask "Do you ever WANT kids?" it's ok because it's more that you're curious about their view on family and such. I've had people say to me, "WHEN are you having kids?" which I think is rude because it assumes you HAVE to have them and assumes you are ABLE to. My friend can't have kids and gets really upset when people ask her that way.

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If it’s a friend I don’t think it’s rude, but I probably wouldn’t ask someone I didn’t know well eg someone at work. You never know what people are going through, and if someone is having trouble TTC it could be a sensitive question.

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I answered yes from the perspective of someone asking a dating/engaged/newly wed couple.  
It is 100% ok to talk to a potential mate about wanting kids (I have been married long enough to not even consider this).
But I think it is rude to ask a couple - especially a couple you aren’t very close to - if they plan on having kids.  It really is none of your business and the question can create an awkward situation if they want kids but are struggling or if they don’t want or plan on having kids.  There are better less personal topics for small talk.

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It isn't rude per se, but if you don't know the person or circumstances it can trigger emotions for her. There was a period when drs told me I'd likely never conceive (fortunely I eventually did), and when someone would ask me, it was very difficult.

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I don't think its rude at all. for me someone that doesn't want kids is someone that I didn't want to date. it is actually a question that I asked very early on-before we even became official.

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It’s just a simple and small question. It shouldn’t be offensive but depending on how you say it or word it might come off as stand off ish.

Is it rude to ask someone if they ever want to have kids?

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