This is just my opinion and what I have noticed. Please for your own sake IF your dating a person that already has a baby/child before you in the picture .... don’t get involved UNLESS you have one of your own from previous relationship. That would be a different story. But lately, particularly I see with some girls (who aren’t mothers) get involve with these guys who already fathers (were never married). And then gets pregnant themselves leaving the guy with two baby mamas. I was dating this guy who already had a kid from a previous relationship, what I noticed in him and my other friends in the same boat they are charmers and play this white picket fence love. But deep down they are insecure and become controlling when they get comfortable. Obviously I ran for the hills. The guy was more into finding love and filling those voids than being a father first. When you have their second baby, your stuck with them. That other woman.... sorry to say they will always been there. It’s unfair sometimes but too bad the first time around didn’t work out. And those already in the situation I mentioned.... I hope things work out the best for each every one of you and worked out a great system and being happy what life has to offer. I already know not everyone will agree to what I have to say but I hope it makes a difference or helps someone out there