Ok women need help

Tiffany • Im a mother of 3 beautiful kids. Married to the love of my life. I'm outgoing funny and caring.
OK my hubby has a very hard time getting hard I can suck him play with him and so on and it don't get hard what can we do he gets so mad cause it won't get hard and thinks I hate him for it. When he does get hard it goes soft fast. Any advice to how we can spice things up thank you