Pregnancy weight gain 😭

I am 23W 4days and I have gained almost 35lbs!!! I feel insecure of my self and feel gross. I am so thankful that I am pregnant and have the opportunity to Cary life ❤️ but my weight is really bugging me and bringing me down. I'm trying to eat better and be more active. My OB is very blunt and she tells me I need to slow my roll and I am gaining "too much weight" for this early, and that is dragging me down. I was "obese" before pregnancy and now I am gaining weight like crazy. How much weight did you mommas gain during your pregnancy? I've been eating better and becoming more active as much as I can with my crazy schedule but it's not enough.