Is this what marriage is?? HELP.!!

I been 3 years with my now hubby. It was our first time moving out of our parents house and he was my first BF.  We purchased a house together  9/2014 and six months later we got married (we were engaged for a little over a year) two months before we got married we had a disagreement. There was something he said that I guess I can't get over, "ITS MY MONEY ILL DO WHAT I WANT" now about a month ago (now we are married) in another disagreement he said, "I DIDNT WANTED TO GET THIS HOUSE ANYWAY" I guess I can't get over that either. Lately I been loosing the drive to keep fixing the house or even decorate it (our house needs a backyard fence and little inside touch ups) it's like I don't care for it, I feel like it's not home if he never wanted it in the first place (he said he didn't mean it) we want kids but he is messy (which I thought I can change him and didn't bother much before) it bothers me now. I been moody almost every other day. I feel like I'm a bitter person now. I hold grudges easy and I will forgive but can't forget. Is it just me??? How can I move on from thinking that way??? Should we even have a kid??? Should I just call it quit??? Thanks for your input in my situation.