Just Wondering...

So a couple months ago I posted about wanting to leave my husband because I was tired of how he treated me and I got some fabulous responses and I got the courage to pack mine and my daughter's stuff, and leave. A week after that, I filed for divorce. Four more months until it's finalized, but I'm getting there. I'm also now employed and I will be starting CNA school at the end of the month. I'm starting my life. HOWEVER, there is one thing. My husband and I share a best friend. The best friend is a guy. I have had the biggest crush on this guy since I met him, but I was with my husband so I never did anything about it. One night, when we were drunk, we ended up having sex. Flash forward 2 months later, and we still are. And we make each other really happy. And my daughter adores him. And for once, I know what it's like to be treated right. We aren't labeling the relationship for a while, probably not until my divorce finalizes, which I'm fine with, but what I want to know, is if we are bad people?? I know he's my husband's best friend, but he became more of a best friend to me than him the last couple months of my marriage, and him and my husband don't really talk anymore either. My husband doesn't know about us, nobody does (except for my girl best friend, you know how it is ladies). But he's constantly feeling like he's a bad person or something because of the "Bro code" or whatever. I believe that people should be able to be with whoever makes them happy. Am I wrong??

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Th

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You not wrong, you moving on with your life. You should be happy

Co

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You were already separated and had filed for divorce before anything started between you two so it’s fine. There is nothing wrong with what you’re doing.

J❣

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The same thing happened to my uncle his wife left him for his Bestfriend. In the beginning I seen it as wrong but as time passed by I noticed he made her happy and thats what counts. You’re not wrong. Follow your heart and do what makes you happy.

Ar

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I can see why he’s feeling that way because he IS breaking bro code. So he needs to decide whether he really wants to be with you and if its really worth it.because if he does he will most likely lose his bestfriend. It’s a big decision but his cards have been dealt. if I really loved someone I would go for it and if I lost my bestfriend in the process then so be it but I know it would be a huge step to take

P

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Nope, you’re fine girl! And so is he! I never understood that notion. I’m getting married tomorrow and my husband dated one of my now ex-best friends in high school. I’ve had a lifelong best friend but there have been other girls who took temporary top spots in my life. She was there from about age 14-17. She fell in love (or whatever it was) with him in 9th grade even though they never dated but did have a fling. I started seeing him when I was 19 and he was 21. She still stopped being my friend 🤷🏻‍♀️ I don’t take it as a loss since it was exchanged for my entire future, and maybe this guy is yours!