Husband is bi-polar.

I know he is. I’ve known him for 11 years and it’s always been the same with him. He can go months being fine and then like a switch, he turns into this person I don’t know. He can go a week, a few days, it doesn’t matter. He has a switch. When that switch goes off, it’s like he’s the meanest person I’ve ever met. He gets irate. Hard to talk to. Irrational. The difference between him not flipping the switch and him “on his low” is night and day. When he’s good, he’s loving,kind, thoughtful, silly, amazing. Like amazing. He won’t get help. Which is hard because he won’t admit he has a problem. I know he does because a lot of my family members are bi polar and I know the symptoms. Mental health is no joke. I’ve thought about leaving him but on one hand, he cannot help that he’s mentally ill. I’m sad for him. I’m hurt for him. I love him but it’s so hard never knowing “when is that switch “ going to flip.