Aftercare makes it all okay?

Question

So my Dom/Daddy thinks that as long as he provides aftercare, he can essentially make me do anything, and I have to because he is my dom. Is he right? Like I was in my dorms cafeteria eating and he wasn’t with me, but he kept trying to force me to take my panties off in front of everyone, he kept saying I had to because he’s my daddy, but I still didn’t do it.

Accepted Answer

No.
If he thinks that being a dom just means that he gets to make you do whatever he wants you to at any given moment, whether you're comfortable with it or not, he's a shitty dom. Being a dom comes with the responsibility of ensuring your sub is always safe and enjoying play. It requires a knowledge of boundaries and the self control to not cross them. And if you're only comfortable with sub/dom play when you're with him, then he does not bring play outside of that space.
You need to have a serious talk with him. You are not powerless as a sub; your comfort, safety, and enjoyment is still of utmost importance.

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No. 
You have to come to an agreement. You are not obligated to do anything.. it’s an exchange. You both should get something out of it. 
For me, hard no’s involve any time or place that my daughter is around. And no public degradation. Any Dom I’ve had has to understand that that’s not kink for me. That’s just them being an asshole.

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Hell No,
A Dom Always respects your agreed upon boundaries. Anything outside of that where you’re not in agreement becomes questionable and may be abusive. Im not very knowledgeable as this is my first D/s relationship and I always used to be scared that he will make me do something I’m not comfortable with. My Dom tells me often that he doesn’t have any power I haven’t given to him. I think the same goes with a healthy D/s relationship. You have chosen to trust him with your submission and it shouldn’t be abused.
It may be time to have a talk about your boundaries and what your limits are.

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Fake Dom. Kick his insane ass to the curb.

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Uhhhh pretty sure that’s not how the whole dom thing works🤔

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hell to the no. 
when ever my bf and i are in the dom/sub space hes always asking me if i'm okay. he asks 3 times. and if i even hesitate we stop immediately and talk about it.  
you need to sit down and go thru what your comfortable with and what your not. keep in mind, he cant make you do anything your not okay with.

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no no no no no!!!!! girl you do NOT have to do anything youre uncomfortable with, especially something that could be publically humiliating.

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No! His using the title of 'dom' to abuse you. In all relationships there has to be consent otherwise it's abuse. Dom and sub couples should always agree on sexual all activities, it is never ok to make someone do something

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Girl you better get your boundaries set or end it! I'm in my first dom/sub relationship and he always makes sure I know and understand that in no way will he ever make me do anything I don't want to. My comfort, safety and pleasure and trust are his number 1 priority. He always talks to me and explains to me something that he wants to do like for example recently we tried doing our first roleplay. It was a test to see if I would be able to handle how in character (it's so realistic that I legitimately felt scared but in a good way because I knew it was really him) he gets and still know that it isn't really real. If he can't respect your boundaries or doesn't want to know what they are then say bye bye to him

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Your play has to be safe sane and consensual.  His job as your Dom is to oversee your safety and make sure your play doesn’t get out of hand.  He’s supposed to treat you with respect unless you both agree to acts of humiliation (which is a kink on its own). By the information you’ve provided it sounds like a controlling abusive relationship that you need to get out of for your safety.  Take care and good luck sweetie

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