So my husband wants to do anal sex and I'm nervous about it. every other time we tried it was just too painful and we came up with an ultimatum and I agreed to do it. my question for you ladies is what would I do to prepare myself and have it hurt less. or what are some things that will help me numb the area a bit. I've been also wanting to do this for some time and o have jist been too scared. also can I have your first then experience with this it might help me know what to expect