I need advice

So to make a long story short. I have been with my husband for 10 years as a couple and 6 years married. I am 24 yeas old and hubby is 26. I have a 3 year old and we are due with our second in October. Our marriage has always been great we made a couple of mistakes financially of course like everyone else has. Back in 2016 we almost qualified to buy a house. Things shifted I got sick and other things happened so I got a pay day loan plus a loan from the bank to help us with our bills( my credit score was great back then, husband’s wasn’t so that’s why I got the loan) so we weren’t able to buy the house that year. We did however buy our second car that year. Anyways fast forwarding to 2018. My husband and I are still paying for that loan and other stuff we have so our credit completely sucks. My parents yesterday on Mother’s Day decided that they were going to sell their house to buy a smaller one and wanted to help us with our own house. I was very tempted to say yes because I am in a point right now in my life that I feel like a complete failure. So my parents spoke with my husband and I. My husband tried to get a couple of words in but like always my parents brush him off. My parents do this to everyone they speak to their friends and even me. Then at that moment it hit me that my parents have been trying to manipulate me to doing things how they want me to do it. And that they have convinced themselves that my husband and I are complete failures that can never amount to anything. My husband and I already came up with a plan on our own to buy our home but for 2020. Originally that’s what we wanted to do. Then my parents come out saying oh but you guys should’ve been had your own house and look you guys practically just bought a second car. When I was your age I had everything. It just made me feel so shitty inside when they told me that. (The last part they only told me, hubby was in the bathroom) my parents also want to try and take control of the baby shower (which I am planning this time) I have to keep constantly remind them that I am planning it how I want it. They make snarky remarks about it, like oh but we know how to throw parties and you don’t because you have never done it. When we got home hubby and I felt very uneasy. We appreciate their help of course but we want to try to do things on our own. How I think of it is if my parents always help me what is going to happen the day they pass away? How am I going to survive you know. Hubby broke down and said that he feels like my parents see him as a joke and that he isn’t capable of taking care of me or the kids. He said that my parents make him feel very useless. I don’t know what to do about all of this. My parents have always been very judgmental and always wanting to help me but then they throw it back in my face whenever I mess up. I feel like I know they want to help me. But they are doing it with the intention to control me and “fix” my life. I hate how they keep making my hubby feel like a shitty person. They have constantly done this to him since we have been together. My parents behind his back have told me that I could’ve done way better. I told them they need to respect that he is who I chose and that’s who I want to be with. My hubby treats me like a queen and is amazing to his daughter. To find a good man these days is very hard and I know I got lucky. I feel hurt about my parents and I don’t know what to do about them. I know this is crazy seeing as we are all adults here but they make hubby and I feel like we are little kids. Any couples faced this?