My friend is ungrateful... (Rant)

When her brothers girlfriend left him (Memorial Day)  I offered to help her throw her shower here at my house. She took that as me footing the entire bill! Now it's 12 days before the shower, I asked her what her budget was and she insisted I told her I was covering everything !  I have nothing. I can't even run my pool this year! With moving, & baby  coming & being in the hospital, we're just not financially able to spend a ton of money on her shower. & if we could we would! Trust me!! we planned on going half with my mom for her crib and spending some money on other things like some decorations we offered to make her pasta salads & a couple appetizers & my mom offered to make her cake. Now cause I can't afford the whole thing she's throwing it herself at her house instead of letting me and my mom help her have it here! I just feel like she's acting like a spoiled brat! Her brother & sister never offered to chip in!! This came up yesterday when her brother friend 12 days before the shower couldn't let us borrow tables & chairs.. So she expected me to foot the $300 that would cost too!  I sorry but point blank we don't have it especially 12 days ahead of time. I felt that is her/ her brothers responsibility. Since that was taken care of. I'm just upset & hurt that instead of making it work & asking her family for help she turned on me & took it away from me!!