Who had their mom in the delivery room?

Here’s the thing... I LOVE my mom but she can be very over bearing and controlling during certain situations where she thinks she knows best.

EXAMPLE: She is always asking why we do things certain ways and not how she would do it, thinks she knows the best way for everything, always wants to be involved in situations, gets her feelings hurt very easily.. etc.

Not only does this annoy me but my husband as well.

I am due in July with my first baby. My mom has VERY badly has told me how she wants to be in the room during birth but we have already told her no and that it’s just going to be me, my husband, midwife, doula & birth photographer. I can tell that made her upset but this is MY birth and I need to do what’s best for my family to have a STRESS FREE birth.

I am still on the fence about hiring a doula because I haven’t found one that I click with yet. At this point, i would honestly rather have my BEST FRIEND in there with me who has already had two kids. She knows me so well and I feel 100% comfortable with this idea of her helping me and my hubby during birth.

I know my mom would FLIP out if she found out I was doing this and be so upset.

First of all - I am having a NATURAL BIRTH. The last thing I need is for my mom to feel like she knows more than my midwife and get in the way of things during my birth. Also, I don’t want my mom taking over the role of my husband. I want my husband to feel 100% comfortable and enabled to help me during my birth. I can totally see her wanting to hold the baby straight out of my womb.

How do I tell my mom that I want my best friend to be at the birth and not her? I feel SO bad but I also feel like this is the right decision... 😩💔