Do guys really care that much about weight?

Hey people,

So I’m a young woman who has struggled with my weight pretty much since I was a little girl and I always pushed guys away because I felt like I wasn’t good enough for any of them being as heavy as I am.

I finally decided that I wasn’t going to think that way anymore; like I didn’t deserve a man because of my size.

I started putting myself out there and found this super sweet guy who I really enjoy spending time with. And he never seems to even notice my tummy or big thighs (actually, he seems to enjoy my thicc thighs and butt 😉). Nothing is official yet with us, so far we just hang out once in awhile, but I’m very interested in having a relationship with him.

Anyway, like an idiot I looked back on some of his older pictures on Instagram of him with these beautiful, thin, very small women and I felt those old familiar feelings come crawling back. That I’m not good enough for him. That I should be in better shape to deserve his love. (Keep in mind these are things I learned to tell myself from listening to my parents talk about themselves and other heavy people— never has this guy even hinted that he dislikes my size).

He works a lot and I don’t hear from him often, but we’ve never gone more than four or so days without seeing each other. It’s been TWO WEEKS since I last HEARD from him and I am losing it thinking that I lost him after he finally realized he could do better.

I guess I am just a little paranoid because I haven’t heard from him in awhile and these feeling of not being good enough have started to come creeping back.

In your experiences...do guys really care all that much about size? Do I need to chill?

Thanks