Don’t think my ex was informed he needed to get the TdaP shot

He my ex fiancé.

I broke up with him because the veil on his narcissistic behavior was lifted and I began realizing how dangerous and unhealthy our relationship was.

He also took advantage of me two different nights after pressuring me into drinking to much.

That’s how I got pregnant.

Anyways ....

I haven’t really spoken with him since I completely cut him off after his empty threats of trying to take the baby away from me.

He didn’t want the baby. He even told a woman with fertility issues that he’d sell it to her. 🤦🏼‍♀️

(Her and I are friends now)

I did however give him my grandmas number to call for updates and he never has.

His grandma and sister who live in another state have been more involved and interested then him!

ANYWAYS!!

The point of my question was

When him and his family come to my home to meet the baby, he’s not allowed at or near the hospital, should I allow him to hold the baby if he hasn’t gotten the shot?

I’m a FTM and am concerned about this.

Also how do I tell everyone they need to get the shot before they see the baby?

My mother was defiant at first but has gotten it.

I’m worried about this with everyone....

Also only a few people will be visiting one time. Should I ask them to be vaccinated too?

My grandma (who’s been vaccinated) thinks I’m asking to much of those who’ll only be visiting one time.

Also I have been vaccinated with the shot they give pregnant mothers!

(I’m not interested in what anti-vaxers think. We have resources to protect our kids. My choice is to use them and not just hope my kid doesn’t get sick from yours.)