I have a situation and I need to know if my feelings are wrong.

My daughters father and I broke up for 6 months and she ( his mother) hadn’t asked about her, tried to see her, or called me to check in on her(even before we broke up she told me I would be a horrible mother). Me and him are back together and we asked her to watch our daughter so we can move my stuff back in. She told him that I’m not allowed to drop her off or pick her up. I understand she may not like me but if you can’t find a way to respect me then why should I let you watch my daughter? I just feel some type of way about her telling me I can’t be on her property, am I wrong?