After 4 long years of emotional and verbal abuse, I finally asked my husband for a divorce last February. He immediately moved out and began dating/sleeping with other people. No big deal.....I was "over" him long before I asked for divorce. Everyone in our lives was SHOCKED- we always seemed so perfect. What my friends and family didn't realize was my husband was a DICK, but I don't believe in airing a relationship's dirty laundry, so I kept the bad stuff private.

A few weeks after he moved out, I became romantically involved with a good friend from college. I've known him for a long time.....he is incredibly sweet, thoughtful, and respectful. Even though the ex hubby has bounced bed to bed since we split.....I'm the one being demonized. "Moved on too quickly" they say. "Must have been cheating" - which is totally false.

I'm pissed. My ex treated me like shit (wont go into details, but it was bad) for years. When I finally had enough, I ended things, which has prompted a 3-4 month ho-a-thon on his part. I start seeing someone who is kind and gentle to me.....and I'm the bad guy.

My friends and family arent rude to my boyfriend, but they are still hurt over me ending "such a good thing" with my ex. How do I get my loved ones to accept my new boyfriend without stooping so low as to bad mouth my ex?