Am I right?

I’m having trouble understanding my husband. When I met him, he was full of love and romantic. Now that I’m married to him everything has changed. I was not a smoker when we went out, so I’ve started smoking recently and he says that a woman who smokes is disgusting. When we went out he also did not smoke pot and now he does. He throws it in my face that I started smoking and that I wasn’t like this, but it should apply to him don’t you think? Why is it so hard for us women? Categorized like we’re maids, should not smoke because we need to be perfect. I’m so tired of this. I can smoke because I want and just as much as my husband wants to smoke pot. 😥😧